Like most people, I dream of one day sitting with the woman of my dreams and looking back at our lives together. Laughing at its highs and quietly avoiding the lows.
As the immortal Sinatra once sung: “Regrets, I’ve had a few. But then again, too few to mention.”
Regrets are a part of life, and here are a handful that have been shared by people who’ve “been there and done that.”
State Library of Queensland, Australia/Wikipedia
Not being more careful when choosing a partner for life
One elderly person said that people seem to rush into a relationship in the form of a “last chance leap at love.”
Another elderly lady spoke from her experiences and said “It’s better not to marry than to marry the wrong person.”
U.S. National Archives and Records Administration/Wikipedia
Settling down because it was “the thing to do.”
Nowadays, people are choosing to opt out of settling down. One lady shared that: “I wanted to have kids. I was raised to think you needed a husband for that. So, I found one and ignored all of his faults.”
Not settling a family argument or grievance
Any family argument is a bad one, especially if everyone keeps it as a grudge for the remainder of their years. When speaking of an argument with one of his children that had poisoned their relationship, this elderly man said:
“The kinds of things that seemed worth saying ‘My way or the highway’ when you were 40 and they were 18 usually never seem worth it at 80,”
“I used to hang on to a grudge as if it was a badge of honor. I didn’t realize that all the negativity was only hurting me.” Said another man.
Caring too much about what others think.
The truth is, if you’re living your life solely to impress others, you’re doing it wrong.
“Wasting time worrying about what other people think of me.” Said one lady about the subject of caring too much.
“Stop trying so hard, and to just be me. Wish I did that a long time ago.”