June 19, 2024

Why Settle For So-So? 6 Reasons You Should Be Having Good Sex

Are you having good sex? According to a recent study, a lot of people aren’t. But what totally qualifies as good sex in the first place? Relationship experts will tell you that it varies significantly depending on the individuals having it.

“Good sex is sex that happens with a frequency that is satisfying to both partners and includes activities that both partners find pleasurable,” explains Stephanie Buehler, MPW, PsyD, licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist at Hoag for Her Center for Wellness in Newport Beach and Irvine, CA.

“It requires understanding one’s own sexuality and sharing that with a trusted lover, while being open to what one’s partner wants as well. ”

While good sex doesn’t have to end in an orgasm, despite what TV shows and movies have impressed upon us, Dr. Buehler explains that it should end with an overall feeling that the experience was one worth having. In addition to the fact that good sex, well, just feels amazing, it’s also beneficial for your relationship, mood, and even your health. Here, are some surprising, and totally welcomed, benefits of good sex.

It’s a general marker of good health

If you’re able to have good, pain-free sex, chances are that you are in good health, says Nicole Prause, PhD, a neuroscientist researching human sexual behavior, addiction, and the physiology of sexual response and founder of Liberos LLC. Additionally, she points to research published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, which says more sex predicts fewer negative cardiovascular events in the future for women.

It’s good for your immune system

Sex is related to immune function, the network of cells, tissues, and organs in your body that work to protect it and keep it healthy. “According to research published in theJournal of Bacteriology, orgasm increases the activity of NK cells, which provide immune protection, without increases of hypothalamo-pituitary-adrenal activity observed in response to stressors,” says Dr. Prause.

She also points to another study published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology, which found that individuals who reported having had sexual activity in the past week also had longer telomeres, the caps at the end of each strand of DNA that protect our chromosomes, and therefore reported fewer symptoms of illness than those who did not have sex in the last week.

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