July 15, 2024

Why do people refuse to admit mistakes?

All wrong, sometimes in detail: “it is Not necessary to stop at the store, the house still has milk. ” Sometimes more serious: “what’s the hurry, we have plenty of time before the flight! ”. Sometimes big: “so What was the rain, I saw this man broke into the house opposite. ”

No one likes to admit mistakes, it’s how we behave when proven wrong. If actually in the house there was not a drop of milk is stuck in traffic and missed the plane, I learned that an innocent man spent five years in our false testimony?

Some admit mistakes and say, “You were right, after all it was necessary to buy milk. ”

More generally agree that he was wrong, but Express it clearly to the other did not feel their superiority: “We had time on the flight, but, unfortunately, fell into this tube. Okay, next time, leave home early”.

Protective mechanism distorts the perception of the world to reduce the level of risk

But there are those who categorically refuses to admit mistakes, even if they are irrefutable evidence: “They released him on the results of the DNA examination, because the other mug confessed? Bollocks, it was that guy, I saw him”.

Most probably know the first two examples, because this is a typical response to errors. We accept responsibility, in whole or in part, but do not dispute the facts. Don’t claim if milk is enough, when it is not, or that we’re not late to the airport, when the plane flew away without us. But what about cases where people deny the obvious and agree that was wrong? That was loath to admit mistakes, which is constantly why they always deny it, what could be wrong?

The reason for excessive pride. Some to such an extent vulnerable ego, self-esteem is so fragile and weak psychological Constitution, which they see as a threat to personal dignity. We assume that at least something was wrong, accept the reality unbearable. The internal protective mechanism loses the combination, distorts perception of the world to reduce the level of risk. This mechanism protects morbidly sensitive, “I”, changing the facts on the level of thinking. People believe that nothing was wrong, and not feel guilty about it.

In the end, they declare: “this Morning was enough milk, I checked. So someone drank it. ” When they remind you that home all day was empty, so no one could do it, they assert: “Yes he could! I tested it, the milk still remained. ” It turns out, the house entered a Ghost and destroyed the remnants of the milk.

In another described case, they will argue that precisely identified the attacker, despite the DNA results and recognition of the other defendant. If they argue, will continue to insist on his or pounce on anyone who dare to argue, revile sources of reliable information. For example: “These lab always lie, besides, how can you believe the confession of some criminal? Why do you always take someone else’s side? ”

Psychological rigidity is not a sign of strength, is a sign of weakness

Those who regularly behaves called psychologically unstable. From the side they seem determined and resolute, and these qualities are associated with power. But the psychological stiffness or rigidity is not a sign of strength, it shows weakness. Determination – not a conscious choice, pushing these people desire to protect a vulnerable ego. Recognize missteps unpleasant, it is a blow to the ego. To come to terms with reality and say “Yes, I was wrong”, you need a lot of emotional effort and courage. It’s a shame when it happens, but most manage to overcome it.

But people who can’t admit wrong, and I can’t stand the slightest hint of their errors go on about the painful ego. It is easier to twist reality, to rebel against obvious facts to defend their case. How to treat such behavior, everyone decides for himself. The only thing that cannot be allowed to take stubbornness and refusal to admit mistakes for the manifestation of strength and confidence, signs of vulnerability and psychological immaturity.

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