He’s the man who brought drag to the masses and his iconic show, RuPaul’s Drag Race, is watched by millions every single week. And now, the 57-year-old actor and revered TV series host has penned a self-help book, GuRu, which he hails “a talisman and guidebook for living.” Ru, who says his book will help others navigate the chaos of modern life, has shared an exclusive extract with GLAMOUR UK. Shantay, you stay.
I’ve been shunned by whites for being black, by blacks for being gay, and by gays for being fem. The real tee? The ego needs to feel superior over others. The art of shapeshifting also includes reading the energy in the room. Protect yourself from ignorance and keep out of harm’s way. And know that the hurtful things people say has everything to do with them and not you. It is simply outward projection of their own self-loathing. Bless them. And by all means, don’t let your ego co-opt the situation or get involved. Part of your job as a business person and diplomat is to get what you need to and not take it personally.
There’s a certain detachment sensitive people must maintain to endure the harsh realities of this world. Things aren’t always as they seem. There are different levels of consciousness. Different vibrations. Drag reminds us that the divisions we create to make sense of what is real and not real are all but our own little superficial illusions. Go with it and get out of the habit of trying to make sense of it all. Practice just being.
A little perspective.
My waist is ridiculously cinched and the butt is padded beyond recognition. All of this is because when wearing a traditionally men’s garment in “ladykins” drag, one must overfeminize the body in order to keep the slacks from looking too butch. I mean, come on! A man wearing pants is gonna look totally butch unless you pad that booty to high heaven! Quick reminder: Having a fat ass is a good thing.
I call my wigs “girls.” This girl is probably twenty-five years old and has worked really hard for me over the years. And I’ve worked hard to keep her in tip-top shape. Of course, she was born back before the proliferation of all the new machine-made lace-front wigs that you can buy for less that $100. This girl probably paid for my house. You are cordially invited to lace front manor.
Never underestimate the power of the smoky eye, especially if you are new to makeup and want to do something really dramatic. The first stop for drama is making sure you have on false eyelashes. For next level drama go for the smoky eye. When there are no words, let the eyes do the talking.
Health is wealth. You’ll get to a certain age and realize the most valuable currency is good health. Take good care of your body and be mindful of the thoughts you think. Eventually, all of the thoughts you think will show up on your face. Think healthy thoughts. Even if you have every right to complain, don’t do it. If it’s raining, learn to dance in the rain. You are the architect of your life. Please believe it and let that be the reason.
Your health is the most valuable thing you have. Protect it.