That people often change throughout their lives, but not just because they got married. Many people get married with either the expectation that marriage will change their SO or that the person will stay the same forever. Neither are correct. People will change, but not always in the ways that you expect and you have to be willing to adapt to them. -Tazi752000
Don’t forget to continue going on dates after you’re married. -VictorBlimpmuscle
How they relate to their family and if you can handle it.
If, say, your partner’s family is nauseatingly close and loves to spend time together, are you down with that? Is your partner good at setting boundaries?
In-laws can destroy relationships. -TBoguS301
Go to Ikea together. It’s like Hunger Games for relationships. -Mista_Madridista
When my grandfather asked my grandmother to marry him her father made them both sit down and write a list of 10 deal breakers. They then had to discuss them all to decide if they could both live with them before he would give his blessing. In over 50 yrs of marriage, neither one crossed the deal breaker line and they had a head start on open communication channels from the experience. The other thing they did was to ensure that each of them got at least one hour of my time every day from Monday to Friday (the other would watch the kids and there would be no chores done during that time) and weekends were family time. -GrumpyKitten1
Where you’re going to spend holidays.
How much time you’re going to spend with each family.
Most people don’t realize how much stress each other’s families bring to the table. Always be a united front. -amandabee8
It’s probably never going to be 50/50. Somebody is usually going to be carrying more of the load. As long as the burdened partner is not the same one all of the time, you can make it work. Just my opinion. -threedogafternoon
When you fight, remember that you two are on the same side.
Sometimes it’ll feel like it’s you versus her… whenever it feels like that, Stop. Back up. Figure out how it’s you both versus the world (or you both versus the fear they’re feeling, or you both versus the problems you’re having or whatever…) and not the two of you against each other.
Hell, try to remember that when you’re not fighting too.
If you can’t do this… well, I won’t say “don’t get married”… but do work on this, it’s important. -Allisade
Pretend you aren’t going to have a wedding. Still wanna get married? -CaptainClay2606
Divorces are expensive. -saello