It is very important for a person to believe in something: someone believes in God, someone only in themselves, some believe only in love, and others only in money.
These differences give rise to contradictions at the level of personalities, cultures, states. However, at the end of December the whole civilized world believes in the same thing – in the New Year. Or rather, in the formula “How to meet the New Year, so you will spend it. ”
What is it – a cosmopolitan and almost interplanetary superstition or a phantom of world unity? The answer to this question, as well as loopholes from this stereotype, was sought by the correspondent of SHE.
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Superstitious state
In modern society, the norm of social behavior is the convulsive buying up of goods, both before a nuclear war and descent into the bomb shelter, and some individuals wring their hands with “what can I do for the New Year? ”, Sometimes preferring this puzzle to the descent into the bomb shelter. In such a situation, superstitions are born in the most unexpected places. “How you will meet the New Year, so you will spend it” – where does it come from? Based on what?
“The roots lie in the worship of certain forces, from which people thought that it depends when they did not yet know that in fact everything is in his hands,” explains psychologist Invik, the teacher of the practice of the interregional class of the Professional Psychotherapeutic League, explains the actions of modern people. Why, then, of all the ancient and not very rituals, this is the greatest force and coverage zone? “Because he is endowed with this importance at the state level.
No holiday is so marked by the state. Young people, old people, rich, poor – all have different ideas about this, but there is only one impulse,- says Ivan Udodov, a specialist at NLP-center for self-development “Atmosphere”.
For the functioning of any system, norms, rules and traditions are needed. This concerns the family, the financial corporation, the nearest hairdresser and the state. The higher the level of the system, the more difficult it is to find something that unites it. But you still need people to believe in something. Once it was the tsar-father, then the bright future of the Soviets – now neither one nor the other. And the New Year – he is so neutral, he does not sow thoughts in his head, on the contrary – for ten days, feasts can bury all that is before. But psychologists are optimistic: the New Year can and should give birth to fresh and bright thoughts, like the first snow.
New Year’s addiction – faster, higher, stronger
And now we have a faith fixed at the national level in the New Year and the norms of its conduct, prescribed in … advertising. “The rhythm of life in recent years has led to the fact that for some people many changes have occurred in the course of the century – such a rapid breakdown of consciousness leads to the fact that people can no longer just talk about their feelings,” Ivan reveals why modern, disoriented people instead of just saying “I love you”, it is necessary to give your loved ones an abstract something to hint about it.
That is, you feel that you are somehow distanced from your parents, they are lonely, you are tormented by conscience, but everyone is silent, like people in transport: they seem to be very close, but if you just talk to them, they will take them for a city madman. Modern etiquette prescribes gallantly to give parents some “piece” which in advertising to the whole country was directly said – parents are instructed to experience from its presence pleasant emotions. We sublimate emotions into things, and advertising helps us in this, composing a sort of worldview catalog – what kind of things what emotions should match.
One advertisement and alienation of people, of course, pre-New Year hysteria can not be explained. It’s still a matter of sport. “To the old laws do not fade away, they must be nourished with something. Analogy with the gym: I want with time more and more workload. In fact, this is not the body, but the brain. Dependence – more, more, more! And the more often and more we celebrate the New Year, the stronger we need to celebrate it next year, and good marketers help us in this. ”Help, in fact, is as follows: “Celebrate the New Year brightly”, “Zakati party,” “New Year will not succeed without a new suit, shoes, travel abroad,” – whisper us thousands of advertising media.
They would take Mondays and cancel
No matter how magical the New Year’s Eve is, not all Cinderellas dance in crystal shoes with princes. Someone is unable to fulfill his intended plan-a maximum-and feels lonely, melancholy and afraid that for the next year he will be disappointed.
“People do not believe in superstition. They just look for some excuses for themselves. If a person has met badly the New Year, then he will not have a bad year all year, but he will have an excuse for himself in case of failures,- says Ivan Udodov. “But you can add a positive. ”For example, slept the New Year – does not mean that it threatens to hibernate, you will simply get enough sleep throughout the year, is it bad? You have met the holiday alone – do not be afraid, people will not start moving when you see you on the other side, which means that you will finally have time for yourself and you will cease to depend on the opinions of other people.
If you quarreled with your loved one and met the holiday together – believe me, this is not a disaster, although many believe so. This means that you are given the opportunity to understand whether this is a person. If that – that in separation you will understand something important, and attitudes from it only will win.
All of us, clearly or implicitly, promise to change ourselves from the New Year. It is generally believed that it is good to start well on Monday, in the morning, although in fact you can begin to change yourself at least on Thursday, from 8 pm to 7 pm. Stereotypes that the New Year – it’s some kind of cosmic scale transition, also can be enjoyed.
“If you think that the New Year failed, take the first step to unusualness – spend a successful New Year at another time – according to the old style or the Eastern calendar, but at least on January 2 or January 21, any day you want!
And you can safely say: I celebrated the New Year with all the signs, and I will have a good year, “Invika recommends. “Changes in a person do not happen with the advent of the New Year, but when something starts to fail and there is a need to change something. If the celebration did not satisfy you, we can say that this is even for the better, since this will give you a push to change, “Ivan Udodov makes an unexpected but interesting conclusion.
Whatever happened, the main thing to remember is that the New Year does not end either on January 1, or with the end of a long weekend. He remains in our soul exactly as much as we are able to keep him – at least until the First.
