“It may be an old cliche, but I think true love will last; it has no end. But finding the right person is a tough thing.” – Bruce Forsyth
Nowadays couples that have difficulties in getting along together could turn to relationship professionals who specialize in fixing their problems. On top of that, there is plenty of information and advice on how to choose the right partner, build a great relationship in order not to be disappointed by the wrong person.
The message is sincere and well-intended: every relationship, given the right direction and enough effort, should succeed.
But sometimes, no matter how much partners try, their relationships don’t work.
Quality partners who have parted ways with their significant other usually blame themselves for the split-up and could get depressed because of this. However, that shouldn’t be the case.
It takes two to tango but only one to let go.
It’s the same when it comes to love and romantic relationships.
Sometimes our significant other could decide that you are not a good match and you have nothing else to do but to let go. Yes, it feels like suddenly your whole world, is falling apart, turning to ashes and dust right before your eyes and there’s nothing you can do to stop what is going on.
But yet no matter how hard it is you have to accept the truth – your partner’s feelings for you have changed.
It’s hurtful even heartbreaking to know you are not the one. When somebody heartlessly chooses to cut you off and delete you from their reality, don’t give them a chance to drive you into questioning your self-worth. And, closing off to the outer world and grieving for someone or something that didn’t turn as planned is not a reasonable solution. It won’t make the person come back; it will only make the pain stronger.
Always look at the bright side of things.
A split-up is not a dead-end street in general; It just implies that one door is shutting and a great many others are waiting to be opened to let you in. Yes, undoubtedly it’s painful to know, that somebody with who you’ve thought you would spend your days until the end of your life decides that you’re not the one for them. But sometimes things like that happen, and you shouldn’t blame yourself. Just take a deep breath, your inner strength and release them.
You can’t force anyone to be with you and love you. Have respect for yourself. Although your heart is aching, and the pain is tearing you from the inside, let this be a lesson for you and move one. Try to control the urges that make you go back to that person you once considered your significant other. Try not to surrender to your shortcoming. They made themselves apparent, you’re not the one for them, and they are not the one for you.
Remember – whatever with the past has gone the best is always yet to come.
To see the light at the end of the tunnel, you should love and respect yourself and just back off and concentrate on your life. It’s normal to be suffering now but remember that is not going to last forever. You have to go on with your life. Nothing should stop you from living it up.
Don’t blame yourself. It was their choice that you have to accept now.
Keep your balance and stop pursuing things that are not for you.
If someone is meant to be in your life, they would stay with you no matter what. And also, don’t let this stop you from finding the right person for you.
First, make sure you’ve got over this break-up, abandon everything that connects you with them, harms your being and start to live for yourself. This way you could free your way for the better things that should come to your life while proving you have high respect for yourself because you are capable of releasing everything and let life be.
In the beginning, it may be difficult, but it would become easier and easier as time goes by.
The feeling that you are broken into million pieces because someone decided you’re not the one would start to fade away slowly. As you’ move on it will all look to you as a distant memory from the past. You have one life to live. So, wasting it while trying to convince someone you’re head over hills for them when they don’t feel the same way for you is not worth the effort and the time.
Don’t forget – you deserve a relationship that you do not have to chase after.
Yes, you deserve peace in your relationship. You deserve to be with someone who appreciates you and shares your point of view about life. You are a good person and have so much love to give and if someone isn’t “loving” you, why should you keep loving them?!
So, keep your head up high. Your forever person is somewhere out there waiting for you.
Remember – when it comes to relationships with others we all have the choice to stay or to go, but this is not the case with the most important relationship of all – the one with ourselves.
So, try making it good and healthy.
Furthermore, If you want to attract a kind, loving person who treats you the way you deserve, you need first to love yourself and treat yourself with respect, understanding, and appreciation. Only then you’ll find what and who you deserve!
Do you agree that it’s not worth choosing someone who doesn’t choose you?
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