Darling, I do not have time!

A modern woman at times resembles the poor Phidippid, who ran from the Marathon to Athens in 490 BC and fell dead, barely having told the Greeks about the victory. 

Eternal running, huge responsibility and crazy fatigue by the evening, while not leaving the feeling that the number of cases is not decreasing, but increasing.She learned about how a busy woman managed her time and how to find time for herself and her private life in a rigid schedule.

To manage their time, women will have to learn a lot from men

Do not fuss

If you observe how an average man is going to work and how an average woman does, the differences between their attitude toward time become obvious. The man is focused on the result – to come on time to work, and even if he appears unshaven and crumpled, most likely he will outlive it. The process itself is more important to a woman – as a result, after changing shoes and returning for a forgotten umbrella, the goal is lost.

“Men, before doing something, will think through, analyze and calculate the final result, and women, as a rule, begin to act immediately, thereby sorting out several options in practice, if any of the options are not approached. Therefore, more hassles in planning just for women, but a weak side of men’s planning is a certain inhibition in the process,

According to her, both a woman and a man can come to the same result, only in 70% of cases a woman will be more exhausted, as she solves problems emotionally, and a man – less, because it comes to business calmly and consistently. Maybe it’s worth it to learn? 

Often planning takes place only at work, and after coming home, the woman is forced to turn into a group of immediate response and take up the accumulated household chores. Experts recommend not to be limited to planning working hours, but include in their schedule and household chores.

Set a goal

“Tell me, please, where should I go from here?” – asked Alice in Wonderland. “It depends a lot on where you want to go,” answered the Cheshire Cat. “Yes, I do not care,” – said Alice. “Then no matter where to go,” the Cat responded. If you want to move forward, and do not stumble on the spot, you must even before the start of the road to understand the final destination and indicate the points where you can gather strength and summarize the preliminary results. Modest entries in the diary will not give the desired effect, if you do not look into the future to imagine where you will be, say, in a year. “If there is no goal, then tomorrow’s planning loses its long-term meaning,” said Vladimir Pirotsky, a member of the Psychotherapeutic League.

Otherwise it will turn out like in that joke: a logger saws a tree, a man walks by and asks: “Why do not you sharpen the saw?”. A lumberjack says: “And I have no time.”

Lack of a common goal can lead to the fact that in five years you will find that you have wasted your time and energy not at all what you would like. “If we talk about global” projects, “including understanding our own desires in general, then, of course, there must be a final vision and we must plan and prioritize, starting from the desired result, counting in reverse order,” – Catherine Fokina recommends. For example, if you set a goal for October 2010, then you need to make subtotals-results for 1 or 3 months ago from the prescribed event – July, April, January 2010, October 2009 (start). And then you need to write more detailed steps to each “three-month total.”

When this is done, you can start daily planning. Steven Covey, author of the best-selling book “Seven Skills of Highly Effective People”, recommends sharing all the cases on the principle of importance and urgency. For convenience, you can draw a square and divide it into four sectors – urgent-important, urgent-unimportant, non-urgent-important and not urgent-it does not matter. Often, most of the time we spend on the actions of the first and fourth sector – we call plumbing, when our neighbors are flooded, or we read jokes and personal mail during the working break. Although it would be more efficient to deal with the pipes before the neighbors rebelled, and in their spare time to tear themselves away from the chair and warm up.

Who ate my time?

Sometimes at the end of the day, realizing that things are not done, I want to find the guilty one, growling like a teddy bear from a children’s fairy tale, who ate my time? The devourers of time are inventions of humanity, which delay, but so hamper the fulfillment of important tasks. “I’m just for a minute,” you explain to yourself, looking in the mail. An hour later you find yourself answering all the letters of friends, for some reason they climbed in LJ and at the same time gaily chirps on ICQ. “Often, we ourselves and arrange problems,” said Ekaterina Fokina. – Doing some work – whether it’s on the house or at work with papers – we can “switch” to other tasks.

Undoubtedly, a woman has always been famous for the ability to do several things at the same time, but in the end we get an imbalance of our own time, distracted by another matter and then spending more time concentrating. “

If you do not understand why you are always short of time, Vladimir Pirotsky recommends that you write down how much and what you spent it on. The lesson is pretty dull, but the results will surprise you. In a week you will look in a notebook and shake your head, saying: “I do not believe.” When the first shock passes, it will be possible to draw conclusions – from what it is worth to refuse and what to pay special attention to. To find time for rest and putting herself in order, after careful analysis, Mrs. Fokina suggests an even more cruel thing – minute planning for future days. Be sure to include in the plan 30 minutes for yourself at home and “relax-minute” at work. At first you will be shown yourself, and in the allotted time you will not fit. But after a while you will understand that they did not suffer in vain.

Particularly worth noting moments associated with laziness. Experts recommend to be more attentive in this matter. “The first trick is not to do what’s causing you laziness. If something causes such a reaction, then, certainly, you have an opinion inside about the undesirable outcome or the final goal is not yours, warns Ekaterina Fokina. If you feel that everything – from washing dishes to calling a client – is not your goal, but you need to reach them, Catherine recommends that you revise the attitude to these actions and find for yourself certain “baubles” that will warm up during the execution, even if not tied to this action, which you do not want to do.

As for women’s complaints about the lack of time for “organizing personal life”, time management experts call a smile: “What is this concept? – Catherine Fokina is surprised. “And who are you, dear women, you want to organize?” Organize yourself first. But in principle it is necessary – just to live! ».

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