Before I had children, I used to love going out to dinner. I would pick out the perfect outfit, my girlfriends and I would drink our favorite cocktails, and I would eat (and actually enjoy) food without a care in the world. But when kids do come, dinner outings just aren’t the same. Gone are the cute outfits and funny cocktail conversation, and instead come bulky diaper bags and nicely worded threats to “eat your dinner now.” And total strangers suddenly become very interested in why you’re out to eat with all your children. Through talking to other moms, I’ve discovered nine backhanded “compliments” people think it’s OK to say to parents while dining out with children.