The correspondent of SHE has learned from experts about the benefits and harm of going to a sex shop. Glamorous pink dildo in the shop window is perceived by us as a joke.
And yet, according to some sexologists, he is not necessarily, of course, glamorous and pink, – every self-respecting woman should have.
And not only him. About who and what is hidden behind the doors of sex shops and what of the presented range is strongly recommended to use sexologists, in the report of the correspondent of SHE.
Without fear and hint
In our harsh times, when even fruit juice and yogurt are advertised for the groans of women who have been roused, in most adult serious people, sex shops nevertheless still, at best, cause an apprehensive giggle. According to a survey conducted by the SHE, 18. 3% of the almost 3000 respondents are regulars of sex shops.
Most of the votes were divided between those who came only a couple of times out of curiosity (40. 5%), and those who were not once, but would very much like to go (34. 75%). And only 6. 5% flatly refuse to reveal the “door of sin” for themselves.
“Sexual advertising and other images empower the mind, but if on a superficial level we all believe that sex has been accepted and treated well, the unconscious, mostly collective unconscious, is under the influence of the layer of condemnation formed during the Soviet era” , – explains the leading trainer in tantra Peter Ostrikov.
Some believe that in sex shops only perverts walk with sweaty hands and running eyes, and normal people do nothing there. “This attitude towards a sex shop is a reflection of one’s own incomplete sexual maturity,
“Says Igor Lyakh, a psychotherapist at the Insight Clinic. “Going to a sex shop means admission that you have sex and you can enjoy it. ”It’s one thing to go there as a museum of horrors and prove to myself that “I’m an adult, I’m not afraid,” and another is to acquire something and, not to be afraid of this word, to use. The sexologist Lyubov Nesterova believes that “every woman should have a dildo”, and everyone recommends regularly visiting a sex shop for shopping.
Guide to the sex shop
Sexologists assure: in a room where in the hall you are greeted by an inflatable penis in human growth, you can find not only funny, scary or used exclusively for satisfying sexual desires goods, but also some good for your health.
Dildo:In the treatment of anorgasmia (lack of orgasm), masturbation using vibrators is recommended. It also relieves nervous tension, is a therapeutic method for neuroses, useful for good blood flow and elasticity of cervical muscles, which is important for childbirth. It is shown in the absence of a sexual partner on average 2-3 times a week as prevention of loss of sensuality and subsequent violations of the onset of orgasm. Love Nesterova and master instructor of intimate muscles Tatiana Kozhevnikova believe that a dildo should be for every woman – she has a sexual partner or not.
Anal stimulators (small dildos) make the anus capsule elastic, normalize blood pressure, treat problems with hemorrhoids (outside the acute period). “Anus must have care so that everything there is soft, elastic, glossy – as well as intimate muscles – is culture,” Kozhevnikova assures.
Balls with a displaced center of gravity (two balls on an elastic band)are used to train intimate muscles, prevent problems with urination, maintain the tone of the walls of the uterus.
With a weak sensitivity in women Kozhevnikova advises to use tips for the penis: “With thorns and other things – that I would just advise, and handcuffs and everything else – this is the right choice. ”
For gifts
On the nose on February 14 and 23 and March 8 – it is on these holidays that the risk of getting a gift from a sex shop is especially great. According to employees of sex shops, by February 23, women come for gifts for men – mostly souvenirs and jokes: award cups, funny panties, apron or radio in the form of a woman’s breasts. By February 14 and March 8, men buy lingerie, toys, erotic creams, lubricants. In general, the ratio of visitors to adult stores is 60% of men and 40% of women. “Teachers, doctors, students, businessmen – we have different people, because everyone is engaged in love,” says the commercial director of the Casanova chain of stores. – The age of visitors is also different – from 18 to old age. ”
Stable demand is for disks with movies, erotic creams, perfumes with pheromones, unusual condoms, vibrators (from 400 to 7000 rubles). Erotic lingerie is sold approximately per set per day.
Rubber women costing 1,500 rubles are often taken for fun or annual swim through the Ob. But rubber men – inflatable products with a vibrator for 3000-3500 rubles – hardly use demand: women, as a rule, do not need a “free application”.
Bad habit
As a whole, experts consider the use of the assortment of sex shops to be safe, the main thing is to disinfect them in order not to infect the infection. However, the immoderate interest in various kinds of lubricants and stimulants “can cause some sort of harm, as it stimulates a neurotic consumer attitude toward sex,” warns Igor Lyakh. On the reasonable question about addiction, Lyakh answers: “It is more often necessary to face addiction to masturbation with a shower.
As for the vibrators, it is obvious that a man can not move at a frequency of 50 hertz, but this frequency can give the woman the greatest pleasure, but in my practice of accustoming to the vibrator was not. ”
Love Nesterova emphasizes that with the help of dildos only the physiological side of sex is satisfied, its psychological component can be filled only by a living partner: “If you can not get an orgasm with a man, then either the woman is not frank enough with the man, or he is not sensitive enough, and the dildo has nothing to do with it “.
If you compare sex with the deep sea, the use of sex toys is like swimming on the surface in a life jacket: it will not give you the opportunity to achieve the true depth of feelings that you can experience with a living partner: “Sex toys, maybe indirectly, show the fear of a person to join in contact with a living partner. This diversifies the sexual game, but does not give an idea of the depth, “- sums up Petr Ostrikov.
