Porn instead of shopping

Pornography affects an unsatisfied man as well as a shopping trip to a dissatisfied woman

Whether due to female curiosity, or male secrecy – but even a few years after the beginning of a joint life, women continue to learn something new about their men. These discoveries may not be the most pleasant. For example, it turns out that a man wants not only you, but a couple of Asians in addition, a myriad of which in different angles stays in the Internet. In some cases, a variety of choices outweighs – and the man prefers the company of pornographic beauties to his lonely partner. SHE correspondents learned how to view pornography on a matrimonial relationship. 

Porn instead of shopping
The complaints of women in the forums are not particularly original. Satisfied not so much about the fact that the couple are watching candid pictures at night or when their ladies are not present, but about what they are watching . Tutorials on the forum readily respond and either angrily label the shame of all members of the stronger sex, or wearily waving their hand, they say, all these and they can not be remade.

According to some reports, a quarter of all searches for users on search engines are related to pornography, 70% of the viewers are men. And men are quite normal in the women’s sense – hard-working (some people find themselves at home not at home, but at work), who earn well and often have a permanent partner or wife. What do they lack for complete happiness? “Man is arranged so that he can never be completely satisfied,” answers Alexander Fedchuk, psychoanalyst of the Center for Practical Psychology and Psychoanalysis “Satori” – at least he will always strive for something bigger, better. Everyone chooses a way to correct their dissatisfaction, and pornography is one way to do this. As a rule, a person follows the path of least resistance and decides that it’s a partner, that he is not good enough, he does not satisfy him. The only period when a person is almost completely satisfied with his partner, falls on the first two months of falling in love. ” The ways to combat dissatisfaction are very diverse.

According to Alexander Fedchuk, shopping, which is so fond of women, and viewing the pornography that men love so much, in fact, are no different from each other, these are just ways to adjust their dissatisfaction with something. 

Do you look?
The overwhelming majority of women, having corrected their hair and pulled up their skirts, will answer this question negatively. In fact – they look (not as often as men), but they are embarrassed about this and talk less about it. “For a man in a relationship, sex takes more space than a spiritual component. It is more interesting for a woman to build relationships, this is connected with the fact that women watch such films less often. They are more interested in following the development of relations between a man and a woman, delve into their peculiarities. When a person watches a movie, he usually associates himself with the hero of this film – here the man presents himself as satisfying to many women, – says Dmitry Arakcheev, director of the Siberian Institute of Psychological Counseling.

Most often young ladies who reject pornography, explain this by excessive naturalism and rudeness. The plot in such films is utterly primitive, relations develop in the same plane, and the heroes-lovers do not differ in good manners and if they wear women in their arms, it is not long and quite for a specific purpose. “Pornography provides an active response and behavior, it is more designed for men,” explains Igor Poperechny, director of the Center for Medical Sexology and Psychotherapy. – Women are repulsive in such films rudeness, cruelty, they are more interested in cinema with elements of eroticism. “

What is the advantage? 
The advantage of pornography in front of real women for a man who is keen on “evening gatherings” is that you do not need to make any special effort. “It’s no secret that men often watch porn for the purpose of getting sexual arousal, masturbate. Get an orgasm with pornography is much easier than to start a relationship with a woman, take care of her, get in this regard to sexual relations, “- said Dmitry Arakcheev. 

Those who have already acquired the object of their desires, but suffer from monotony, again come to the aid of “funny pictures”. But it is not a fact that attempts to repeat it in real life will lead to the joy and pleasure of a man.

“What excites a man in a frank picture, in a porn film, in real life may seem completely disgusting, unacceptable,

” warns Alexander Fedchuk. “He will never do it in reality, only in a fantasy sphere.” 

To clearly share the real world and the world of fantasy, a person needs to grow up and gain experience. This is sometimes not enough for fans of pornography. “Most often, pornography is seen by those who have not developed a sense of adulthood, who lacks life experience, wisdom,” says Igor Poperechny. – For them, watching such films gives a feeling of adulthood, independence. As soon as a man ripens as a person, it forms, it ceases to be interesting. “

Dangerous! 

A man caught unawares, as a rule, can not say anything intelligible. According to eyewitnesses, as self-defense, funny arguments like “just accidentally clicked here” are given. If such accidents are repeated, and the tension within the family grows, the strawberry lover can declare that he is practically a hero, as though he looks, but still remains faithful. However, according to numerous foreign studies, regular viewing of pornography negatively affects family relationships. “Pornography often demonstrates an aggressive attitude towards a woman, her humiliation,” says Igor Poperechny. – 

A person who watches such porn films too often, can break the sense of partnership, goodwill towards his half. “

In addition, pornography helps to achieve an instant effect, and frequent viewing forces us to look for new, increasingly serious incentives to regain the lost sensations. Even joint viewing as a way to bring something new into a relationship can lead to undesirable consequences. If excitation is achieved only through “outside interference”, this can be an alarming symptom. 

Forward looking
Recommendations to women who are annoyed that their man looks at naked women are quite universal. First of all, experts recommend not to blame yourself, thinking that the case in your unattractiveness and non-sexuality is a problem for a man who loses understanding of partnerships. “If you do not like watching porn with a man, if you do not like the fact that he watches him too often, you should not blame him for something or send it to the doctor urgently,” Igor Poperechny recommends. – First you need to talk about how unpleasant it is to you, to draw his attention to the problems that his passion for pornography causes. ” 

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